Fun? But We're Married!: A Wise and Witty Guide to a Lasting Marriage - Paperback

by Lois Leiderman Davitz (Author), Joel R. Davitz (Joint Author)

Co-authored by long-married (54 years) Columbia University professors of psychology, Fun? But We're Married! is about what it takes to sustain a healthy and happy marriage. Emphasizing the value of having fun together, Lois and Joel Davitz also suggest that more communication is not always better; you can be just too sensitive; your marriage can survive a few good fights--if you know the rules; getting out of sync is not necessarily fatal. Drawing on their own experience of life together and many years of professional research into why marriages last or disintegrate, the Davitzes provide a wise and witty guide--for those about to marry--married couples experiencing stumbling blocks--and couples who'll enjoy looking back with the perspective of years and a touch of laughter. From the Introduction . . . We believe that marriage should be a long, happy honeymoon that grows stronger with the passage of time. And it can be. It won't, of course, be all that easy. There will be ups and downs. We know as well as anyone that a lasting marriage is no snap. It takes more than inertia, a handbook of bedroom techniques, a cold blast of economic pressure or the threat of family or religious sanctions. You have to believe that a lasting and happy marriage is possible for you and most importantly you have to believe that it is worth the effort.

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Marriages that last may be back in style, but no one thinks that they come easily.

Only folks who take marriage as seriously as this scholarly husband and wife team would suggest that the real key to a lasting marriage is having fun together. They also insist that more communication is not always better, that you can be just too sensitive, that your marriage can survive a few good fights (if you know the rules), and that getting out of sync is not necessarily fatal.

These insights are among many that they back up with their experience of over fifty years of life together and almost as many years of research into why some marriages last and why others fold.

Drawing on their own life story they provide a witty and wise guide for those about to marry, those who are experiencing their own stumbling blocks, and those who want to look back with the perspective of years and a touch of laughter.

For every reader there is a non-threatening questionnaire that is designed to be helpful ... and fun.